Nurturing Breastfeeding Etiquette: A Guide for Sleep-Deprived Mums

Are you familiar with the antics of older babies and toddlers during breastfeeding? From kneading and twiddling to hanging upside down and kicking, some of these behaviors can be very sweet, while others may leave you feeling a bit exasperated. I have had a lot of questions lately from Mum's about nursing manners to help curb unwanted behaviours, so if you find yourself dealing with any of these, read on for some strategies to encourage better breastfeeding etiquette.

Encouraging Good Breastfeeding Manners

Start Early

Begin promoting positive breastfeeding manners from the early days. Consider using a code word for breastfeeding long before your baby starts talking. Even very young infants can learn not to engage in behaviours that may be painful or annoying for you.

Be Firm, Clear, and Consistent

Set clear expectations for your little one. Be firm and consistent in conveying what is acceptable during breastfeeding. It might take time for behaviours to change, so stay patient, and consistent.

Wait It Out

Many breastfeeding behaviours are just phases as your child explores what they can do during nursing. If the behaviour is only mildly annoying to you, consider waiting to see if the novelty wears off naturally.

Tips for Stopping Unwanted Breastfeeding Behaviour

Distract and Redirect

Find alternative ways to occupy your child’s hands. Whether it's suggesting they touch their own body or providing a small toy, distraction can be a powerful tool. Wear a nursing necklace or a bright scarf to redirect their attention.

Gently Discourage Unwanted Behaviour

If your child engages in behaviours like twiddling, consider wearing less accessible clothing or covering the opposite breast. Use a firm but not frightening voice to reprimand, and be prepared to stop breastfeeding momentarily if necessary.

Avoid Difficult Situations

Some children may struggle with breastfeeding in public. If your child is distractible or wiggly, offer a snack or a cup of water as an alternative. Discuss expectations with your child before leaving home to minimise challenging behaviours.

Different "Rules" for Home and Public

Absolutely! It's perfectly fine to have different expectations for breastfeeding behaviour at home versus in public. While acrobatic breastfeeding might be acceptable at home, a more modest approach is often preferred when nursing in public, especially here when nursing in Dubai. Most children adapt to these different rules easily.

Teaching Polite Breastfeeding Requests

If you're concerned about the way your child asks to breastfeed, consider incorporating a "code word" or teaching them a sign for breastfeeding. Many mothers introduce this practice before their child becomes verbal, ensuring a more polite request for breastfeeding

While breastfeeding manners may vary from child to child, using these strategies can help create a positive and comfortable breastfeeding experience for both you and your little one. Remember, it's okay to set boundaries and teach good manners from the very beginning- if something is to be sustainable, it has to work for everyone involved.